All about this situation as this affect me... If I want extra money I start business I suffer as I give other people (like my sisters) to sell.. I loose a lot even last year the groceries stamps were sent home immediately.. I can't become creative-all my jewellery.. some calculators, new clothes to showcase have been stolen. My Chanel perfume is returned used when I go to big events like conference and when I come back is taken as usual so are my toiletries - nothing new. Scary part - now I teach with my collegea my Planning g books notes, teacher guide, new files dissappear at school only last week.. I inform and asked for help(she promised to return). When I started living with one student (others though they frustrate me by giving unknown reasons my staff). The one that was an accompany-his parent was told I lead her to wrong peace
Our employee has been dismissed for entering South Africa illegally, we received a deportation letter from home affairs, she has left our company provided house, but she is still in South Africa, we need to trace where she is currently staying so as she can be deported, this is a professional teacher who was appointed by us as an international school
Am I Okay? I'm reaching out because I'm really struggling and honestly, I don't know if I'm okay. I've just been in a relationship with someone and I'm so confused about what happened and what's real. My head feels like it's spinning. He cheated on me last year and I found out in March, ( after a lot of lies and story spinning and deliberate hurt from his part) and when I reacted ( also in a way which was very out of my character), he somehow flipped it around and I found myself being the one to apologies and try fix things the very next week? He told me my upsetness was "abuse" to him. He even said things like, "You're the reason you get cheated on." because two other people have cheated on me too and I am the only constant. It made me start to question everything. someone close to me pointed out that he tried to control and isolate me which i never really saw. He'd would say things about what i was wearing a lot and say that if i wore this then he would break up with me or make comments about how bad i looked in things. He would get upset when i would see my friends, or if i didnt tell him where I was all the time, he would make comments about my eating habits and tell people that he wanted to leave me because of things I would eat. He would also shame me for wanting to go out dancing or go out to try new places or things and say that I have no fulfilment in my life. I also wasnt allowed to have any male friends and had to cut all of them off. Basically if I wasnt at home with him then it became a problem. he cheated on me shortly after my gran mothers died and i hit a financial crisis and i couldnt focus on him and be intimate enough. and now even after finding out he cheated he'd expect me to be affectionate for him and get upset when I wasn't comfortable and start accusing me of not loving him and being performative. He used really personal, painful stuff from my past against me, like saying, "You don't know what a real man is because your father wasn't around." He even told me I should be ashamed and embarrassed that people knew he cheated on me, while also saying that him cheating did nothing to his image and its not shameful for him???? Sometimes he'd be really distant, ignoring me for days. But then if I didn't drop everything and rush to him, he'd call me unloving and selfish. He'd swing between sounding sorry and completely blaming me for everything. It's like my reality kept getting twisted. My friends are worried about me. They say this sounds like gaslighting and emotional abuse. I've even started recording our conversations because I felt like I was going crazy, like I couldn't trust my own memory or feelings. I just need someone to help me figure out if what I experienced was actually abuse or if maybe its just a tough break up. I don't know if my reactions were normal, or if I somehow am the problem like he said. I feel so disoriented. I need guidance on how to heal from this and understand what healthy relationships are supposed to look like. Sorry for the trauma dump but I have no idea whats going on.
I have been living with parents that have Narsisistic Personality Disorder for 35years and I'm at the point of breaking because its destroying my life and nobody seems to be interested to listen to me to help me with my parents. My parents believe that there is nothing wrong with them and is convincing everyone that is the truth because nobody believes me or actually take the time to listen to me. They just think im the child, then I'm autom wrong and they are the parents and parents always knows best and are always right. Who out there has intense experience with personally with this that can help me. If you haven't diagnosed anyone with Narsisistic Personality Disorder then I feel you might not have enough knowledge or experience to be able to help me.
My brother has just been provisionally released from custody after 5 months incarceration in Westville prison on suspicion of murdering the mother of his child. The SAPs detective either bungled the case or was paid by the real suspect. We want to clear our brother's name and want the real killer found and brought to book.
This woman contacts people selling items on FB groups and offers to sell on their behalf with a fee..she sold a ride on scooter for me..received the money R and was supposed to put R into my account. Many excuses..lost wallet..money taken out of her account...acknowledgement of owing me money, will pay..then she ghosted me...I've a letter of demand which the sheriff has been to 2 addresses and she's disappeared..but still posts items daily....he suggested a tracing agent..and believes I'm not the only one....
I need to trace a person, then get a vehicle key from him and take the vehicle. He is not paying and keeping to arrangement. Car is registered and financed by me. This is causing financial burden and later bad credit. I would like to sell the car as well. Also the person in question did make threats towards me. If need to be, I need him to understand I have protection.
Requesting costs to get funds back from builder in PE , I made payment of R that did not go through with very slow internet and made another payment and both payments went through. The builder still have my keys to my premises which he had to hand in at our agent in JBay as we had people that wanted to rent for 5 Days at R per day and we could not rent the place to them because the builder renovator did not hand in the keys. The builder is Webber's Construction and Cabinets. He also removed the cabinet doors and I still have no proof that the doors was fitted again. He promised to pay the amount back on the 2nd of June. What can be done and what am I to do.
I need to get photos of the pair I have seen WhatsApp messenges which confirms my suspicion I know he has had her in our house twice that I am almost very sure of. I can get cctv footage from my neighbour I just do not want to make him suspect me asking the neighbour The SHE is also a neighborhood 2 houses down Her ex husband also knows that they had something going on in the past He is a very abusive narcissistic person Full blown alcoholic as well I own property with him 50/50% He has written and emailed a declaration a few years ago that he will give me the house and always pay for it on one condition and that is that I do not open another criminal case of assault against him I have witnesses that have seen these violence and they all gave stepped in to get him off me on various instances I don't think he will get her back to our house because he knows I now know even though they both deny it making it off as big jokes She has sent me private WhatsApp messenges and also on our community WhatsApp groups left me messages insulting me She is threatening to get her nigerian friends to TAKE ME OUT as she puts it I have brought it under her husbands attention in a voice call conversation between her my partner her husband and I But he refuses to accept it I need physical proof I have installed a camera in my house but I need pictures They are now both using different phones also for messaging each other since I spoke up about it He has had many affairs in the past of which I have caught him out on a few I just dont want this heartbreak to continue anymore Unfortunately I have given in a few weeks back and again fell for his lies but he and her totally rediculed me and made me to seem to be off my mind in that call with her husband I want proof of this affair so that I can get him out of me end my sons lives We are constantly walking on eggshells and have to put up with his swearing and screaming and bad moods which I have now seen is brought on in a pattern of times during which he can not get to see her I need to know if I can get him into taking up
