Am I Okay? I'm reaching out because I'm really struggling and honestly, I don't know if I'm okay. I've just been in a relationship with someone and I'm so confused about what happened and what's real. My head feels like it's spinning. He cheated on me last year and I found out in March, ( after a lot of lies and story spinning and deliberate hurt from his part) and when I reacted ( also in a way which was very out of my character), he somehow flipped it around and I found myself being the one to apologies and try fix things the very next week? He told me my upsetness was "abuse" to him. He even said things like, "You're the reason you get cheated on." because two other people have cheated on me too and I am the only constant. It made me start to question everything. someone close to me pointed out that he tried to control and isolate me which i never really saw. He'd would say things about what i was wearing a lot and say that if i wore this then he would break up with me or make comments about how bad i looked in things. He would get upset when i would see my friends, or if i didnt tell him where I was all the time, he would make comments about my eating habits and tell people that he wanted to leave me because of things I would eat. He would also shame me for wanting to go out dancing or go out to try new places or things and say that I have no fulfilment in my life. I also wasnt allowed to have any male friends and had to cut all of them off. Basically if I wasnt at home with him then it became a problem. he cheated on me shortly after my gran mothers died and i hit a financial crisis and i couldnt focus on him and be intimate enough. and now even after finding out he cheated he'd expect me to be affectionate for him and get upset when I wasn't comfortable and start accusing me of not loving him and being performative. He used really personal, painful stuff from my past against me, like saying, "You don't know what a real man is because your father wasn't around." He even told me I should be ashamed and embarrassed that people knew he cheated on me, while also saying that him cheating did nothing to his image and its not shameful for him???? Sometimes he'd be really distant, ignoring me for days. But then if I didn't drop everything and rush to him, he'd call me unloving and selfish. He'd swing between sounding sorry and completely blaming me for everything. It's like my reality kept getting twisted. My friends are worried about me. They say this sounds like gaslighting and emotional abuse. I've even started recording our conversations because I felt like I was going crazy, like I couldn't trust my own memory or feelings. I just need someone to help me figure out if what I experienced was actually abuse or if maybe its just a tough break up. I don't know if my reactions were normal, or if I somehow am the problem like he said. I feel so disoriented. I need guidance on how to heal from this and understand what healthy relationships are supposed to look like. Sorry for the trauma dump but I have no idea whats going on.
I have been living with parents that have Narsisistic Personality Disorder for 35years and I'm at the point of breaking because its destroying my life and nobody seems to be interested to listen to me to help me with my parents. My parents believe that there is nothing wrong with them and is convincing everyone that is the truth because nobody believes me or actually take the time to listen to me. They just think im the child, then I'm autom wrong and they are the parents and parents always knows best and are always right. Who out there has intense experience with personally with this that can help me. If you haven't diagnosed anyone with Narsisistic Personality Disorder then I feel you might not have enough knowledge or experience to be able to help me.
A briefly background of needing a therapist is: I lost my sister at a young age and I had to take care of our parents because they were not coping so I didn’t get a chance to grief. Things in my relationship are not good at all and my partner blame me for everything. I have graduated but am still unemployed and I have a lot of responsibilities so everything is so stressful and I have been battling suicidal thoughts
I am 61 and my wife is 64. I have been working in Angola for the last 9 years and is away from home for about 4 months at a time and at home for 30 days. SWe try to talk every day. When I am at home it seems that time flies and we do the normal stuff, but our intimate life is lacking and it is more on my part. The problem is probably more with me.
Hi, I'm reaching out because I really want to feel like myself again. Emotionally, I’ve been feeling heavy, overwhelmed, and disconnected from myself. I often cry, and some days it feels like peace just skips me no matter how much I pray or try to be grateful. I work in a high-stress, emotionally draining environment where I often feel bullied, disrespected, and unappreciated — especially by someone in a position of power. It’s been affecting my mental health a lot. I’m currently in a transition period: I just passed my degree (BCom Law), and I'm figuring out what to do next — whether to go deeper into law or accounting. There’s a lot of pressure to succeed and not disappoint my parents, and I sometimes feel stuck or lost. I’ve struggled with boundaries, especially with certain people who take advantage of me emotionally. I often put others first to keep the peace, but deep down it drains me. I’ve had moments where I’ve turned to smoking as a coping mechanism. I’m not proud of it, and I want to find better ways to deal with emotional stress and anxiety. I also sometimes isolate myself because I feel like I don’t really have close friends or anyone who deeply understands me. I feel unsupported at times and tired of pretending I’m okay. Despite all this, I have a deep faith in God, and I know He has a plan for me. I want to heal, to find clarity and peace again — to feel present, secure, and proud of the woman I am becoming.
I found that the girl I love with all my heart cheated me with her ex boyfriend and when I asked her that who cheated me with she looked me in my eyes leir to me and I want to forgive her but it's hard for me to forgive her and I love her with whole my heart I didn't expect her doing things like I am now thinking to kill her my heart is broken and her family didn't do anything about it they just keep quiet for me.i am so heart 💔 broken I don't know what to do now because I really love her
I’m here because I need help untangling the relationship dynamic I’ve had with my partner, Zama. She’s very emotionally intelligent and self-aware, but sometimes it feels like that turns into subtle guilt-tripping or manipulation — where I end up being blamed for everything, even when I try to share my own hurt. I want to explore: Why I keep feeling responsible for all her pain, but my own feelings get dismissed. Why I’ve learned to shut down and avoid conflict instead of speaking openly. Whether this dynamic is healthy or fair — or if it’s keeping us both stuck. How I can communicate better, set healthy boundaries, and protect my own emotional wellbeing too. Ultimately, I do still care about her and miss her, but I need clarity on whether the relationship can be rebuilt in a healthy way, or if it’s better to let go.
I’ve been struggling with self-worth and attachment in relationships. I’m trying to heal from heartbreak, patterns of overgiving, and feeling like I need to earn love. I also experience emotional ups and downs, especially around my cycle. I want to feel more emotionally safe, stable, and in tune with myself
Our divorce was finalised in October , we seperated on the 20th January . We have four daughters aged 24, 21, 13 and 10. Our Minor children find it hard to cope with the divorce and currently shows signs of anger and disrespect towards their father. We have a co-parenting plan in place but has not been implemented correctly. The children stay with their mother and sometimes skip visiting their father.
